Self Love

As we come out of the month that is widely celebrated as the month of love; the kind of love that is directed Outward, of giving and embracing others in love.

Let us take the time now and direct it Inward, refill ourselves so that we are overflowing with love that transcends any parameters of time and occasion.

Every evening this month of March, from today we will be posting thought provoking questions, statements; that will allow us to journey into a place where loving ourselves is the norm and we are comfortable with being who we are just as God intended.

Do take the time to participate even in the privacy of your personal journal, start this great revolution and make a statement that will set you apart in this generation.

My Lady, let us change the game!!!



Bursting Forth


“when he opens doors, no one will be able to close them; when he closes doors, no one will be able to open them,”


There is something in each of us that just does not let us go. Like waves, it doesn’t matter how much we try to suppress it, as it gets closer it gains momentum almost to a point of consuming us – this is the call of purpose. It is a relief to know that it is not meant to consume us but to fulfill us. Nothing gives me peace, more than knowing that I can trust God to take me to it and carry me through it. The challenge we always face in living purposeful lives is that there is always an alternative and I dare say the alternative always looks less complicated and less sacrificial BUT it always leaves us crying for more. This is why we keep trying and pushing even when it seems hopeless.


After a beautiful hot day, when the clouds gather with rain, they seem so impenetrable that if we didn’t know better, we would not believe water would soon be falling opening clear skies once again. Sometimes, the darkness, confusion, doubt or lack of progress we see in our lives is the one that will release the key we need to unlock that uncontainable rush of favour for us to walk in purpose.  If only we could see them, not for the thunder that rumbles behind them nor the lightning that strikes so shockingly, but for the torrents of water that will flow forth bringing life everywhere they go. For every gift is from the Lord and is sent purposefully to bring life to all.


Yes, when the heat is on or the clouds fill up, we sometimes doubt that He is there all the way or even yet, feel like it is taking too long; take courage and remember, we are not given a spirit of fear, but of courage, of love and a sound mind. Even at those times when we feel like we are failing and getting lost along the way, remember, He works ALL things out for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. And when our imperfections show forth their gory claws, remember, we are perfected by grace and His grace is always sufficient for our hour of need.


My Lady, take your position in prayer; get set in righteousness and remember, our God has the keys and He won’t deny you. Stay the process and be ready for your testimony! Unlock the uncontainable!


Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life” John 6: 68

Celebrating the gift of newness

Edits-95.jpgWhat a year it has been… We all could spend another day reflecting and have a multiple “If Only’s”
In just a few minutes we will have the miracle of a clean slate, yes a ‘miracle’.
It’s unfathomable how we’ve made it this far, throught it all. Now once again we can start afresh, everything has been made new.
If we think about it, this time of year is one of the very few opportunities we have to attempt genuinely to start anew.
Right after all the festivities that we were always waiting for to pass;we now can start to give way to our everyday lives. Best of all, it’s the start of a new week, we mostly say we’ll get on that diet; go to the gym; read that book when the week starts. This new chapter is perfectly positioned.
Take the time to think and pray about your the New Year..
You have the time and opportunity to position yourself for a Great Year..

My Lady, a graceful, refined & fierce New Year to you.

Count Us In

16 days 2017Every girl needs to know that
She matters
She is enough
She is priceless
Every girl needs to know that
She is loved
She is protected
She is treasured
Every woman needs
Eyes that see her
Ears that are attentive to her whisper
A sincere warm embrace
A heart that says it will be alright
A mind that enquires
A hand to hold
My Lady,  you can count us in
#CountUsIn #16Days2017 #CountMeIn
“Before I formed you in your mother’s womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart” Jeremiah 1:5

Achsah – The Visionary

We have been socialized to be grateful for what we have and requesting for more is seen to be covetous.

So what happens when you ARE grateful for what you have BUT it’s just not sufficient for where you’re going – for what you need to accomplish?

There’s a perfect example from Achsah the Daughter of Caleb. In the book of Joshua the story is narrated of how she was promised as a gift (her hand in marriage) to one who will conquer for her father Kiriath-Sepher. One Othniel accomplishes the task, and as promised Achsah is offered to him as a wife.[1]


Now Achsah after persuading her husband, asked her father for springs of water, her father indeed gave her the land. Achsah had foresight, she was asking in wisdom so they could live of the land – she knew that they needed the springs of water to sustain their livelihood. It seems her husband was reluctant, hence she had to “Persuade” him. Sometimes your vision is as clear as daylight only to you, the urgency of it is weighing heavily just on you, many are times you have to take it up to yourself to do something about it.


The bible says Achsah got down from her donkey, she stepped down reverently and approached her father. Very important when you have this kind of request, you must know WHERE/TO WHOM to take it and HOW. I could almost say she may have not been as confident if not for the relationship (father-daughter) they have…
Know where to take your request.


The faithful father, asks as a Father would… What is your request? Is there anything too hard for the Lord? Aah! Your father is ready to hear your desire. He is willing and able to supply all your needs. Ask for it, God will honour your request. God’s way of giving is through our asking.


Give me a blessing”. What a wonderful petition; what father would not love to give a blessing to his children. A father’s blessing is an inheritance to a loving child. “Give me a blessing”, this is the petition Jacob made as he struggled with an angel in Peniel; he said I will not let you go until you bless me. Achsah refuses to leave her father side without his blessing, even if she goes alone, even if it offends bystanders that view this some kinda way. The vision is heavy on her, she foresees a situation that will be challenging without this blessing.


“Give me a blessing: Thou hast given me a south land; give me also…” Acknowledge what you have with gratitude. The bible speaks of bringing your petition with thanksgiving in your heart[2]. This is exactly what she does. She says Thank You for the southland, I am grateful for this gift.


“Thou hast given me a south land, but it is dry; give me also springs of water to make it of real value to me.” To show how grateful I am, I am already thinking forward on how we are going to make the most of it. She is asking distinctively, particularly, specifically; because she is a visionary. She clearly sees the value that the land (gift) will bring forth, she has a plan and is purposed for this.


Caleb gave her the upper springs and the nether springs. Observe, her father gave her what she asked. She asked for springs, and he gave her springs. “If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent[3]. God gives us what we ask for when it is wise to do so. He gave her in good pleasure. She asked for springs of water, and he gave her the upper springs and the nether springs. The Lord “is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask, or think.”[4]


The vision is for an appointed time My Lady, make sure that you do not leave the father’s presence without gathering all you need to see it come to fruition. Achsah has displayed how and to whom you make your petition. You will come back with your cup overflowing as our father in heaven gives in good measure, pressed down, shaken together.


[1] Joshua 15: 15-19

[2] Philippians 4: 6

[3] Matthew 7:9

[4] Ephesians 3:20

The Authentic Me


There are many voices that feed us and influence the choices we make as we go through life. These voices either make us or break us. It is therefore important to hear these voices and answer the questions – whose voice is it? How is it influencing my choices?


The Oxford Dictionary defines authenticity as being of the original or genuineness. So when we say something is authentic we mean it resembles its original form.  The world has been propagating the concept of being real as though it means being caught up in our experiences and allowing them to define what we choose to be yet it goes much deeper than that. Being real means that we go beneath the surface of what is happening and going to the core – looking beyond circumstances – choosing life at all times.


13 For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[b]
Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them. (Psalm 139: 13-16)


Yes, we do not pretend not to feel or be affected by situations, but while we accept the status quo, we also acknowledge the original intention – the genuine purpose – we acknowledge that there is a God who knows where we should go. In this way we move beyond justifying our habits and emotions as genetic or based on previous experience and take the responsibility of now to restore the original intent and genuine purpose for giving us life.


As much as some experiences have shaped us positively, there are cases where they entrenched in us emotions and habits that blind us to or sabotage our destinies. They remind us of our weaknesses and faults – they taunt us about how we look and make us judge ourselves through the eyes of others instead of the eyes of God. That is why the Bible warns us to take care of our hearts – yes, from the heart flows the issues of life (Proverbs 4: 23).


We were not created to be black sheep, nor were we created to be unproductive. We were created in the image of God and His likeness – with capacity to rule and dominate, to be fruitful and increase – anything that takes this away from us is hindering us from our authentic self.  Your sphere of rule may not be the same as other people, but you have sufficient capacity to stand; it may look like you do not fit the criteria like David, but you are destined to lead the Kingdom. Do not allow what is temporary to define who you are – habits can be changed – emotions can be let go – experiences do pass – but never allow them to steal your authentic self.


You are the original – not defined by circumstances (Acts 17: 28)

You are the genuine you – made perfectly by God for His Glory (Col 1:16; John1:3)

You are the only authentic you – not focusing on what’s behind but pressing towards the mark (Phil 3:12-14)

Anything that does not take you there is not you – and does not deserve your label – let this truth set you free.

My Lady, your dreams are valid – dream on.