The Authentic Me


There are many voices that feed us and influence the choices we make as we go through life. These voices either make us or break us. It is therefore important to hear these voices and answer the questions – whose voice is it? How is it influencing my choices?


The Oxford Dictionary defines authenticity as being of the original or genuineness. So when we say something is authentic we mean it resembles its original form.  The world has been propagating the concept of being real as though it means being caught up in our experiences and allowing them to define what we choose to be yet it goes much deeper than that. Being real means that we go beneath the surface of what is happening and going to the core – looking beyond circumstances – choosing life at all times.


13 For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[b]
Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them. (Psalm 139: 13-16)


Yes, we do not pretend not to feel or be affected by situations, but while we accept the status quo, we also acknowledge the original intention – the genuine purpose – we acknowledge that there is a God who knows where we should go. In this way we move beyond justifying our habits and emotions as genetic or based on previous experience and take the responsibility of now to restore the original intent and genuine purpose for giving us life.


As much as some experiences have shaped us positively, there are cases where they entrenched in us emotions and habits that blind us to or sabotage our destinies. They remind us of our weaknesses and faults – they taunt us about how we look and make us judge ourselves through the eyes of others instead of the eyes of God. That is why the Bible warns us to take care of our hearts – yes, from the heart flows the issues of life (Proverbs 4: 23).


We were not created to be black sheep, nor were we created to be unproductive. We were created in the image of God and His likeness – with capacity to rule and dominate, to be fruitful and increase – anything that takes this away from us is hindering us from our authentic self.  Your sphere of rule may not be the same as other people, but you have sufficient capacity to stand; it may look like you do not fit the criteria like David, but you are destined to lead the Kingdom. Do not allow what is temporary to define who you are – habits can be changed – emotions can be let go – experiences do pass – but never allow them to steal your authentic self.


You are the original – not defined by circumstances (Acts 17: 28)

You are the genuine you – made perfectly by God for His Glory (Col 1:16; John1:3)

You are the only authentic you – not focusing on what’s behind but pressing towards the mark (Phil 3:12-14)

Anything that does not take you there is not you – and does not deserve your label – let this truth set you free.

My Lady, your dreams are valid – dream on.

This Girl Wins Ticket Winners – Thando Ngwadla


I am not your average girl because..
I am not defined by the societal standards set in order to validate my worth. I find my validation in Jeremiah 1: 5
“I chose you before I gave you life, and before you were born I selected you to be a prophet to the nations”

I’m not your average girl because to me the mirror where i find the reflection of the women I ought to become is found in the character of the woman with the issue of blood. Her ability to overlook her situation and to reach for the helm of Jesus’ garment reveals the true meaning of faith in action. I’m not your average girl because well .. the its not the length of my stilletos that keeps me walking tall upright ,but the time I spend in on my knees praying for humility .

I’ll never be your average girl because well after all , I am iKumkanikazi -the embodiment of royalty 💌❤


This Girl Wins Ticket Winners – Yolanda Mini


I believe that I am the best candidate to win the ticket for TGW because I am no average girl.

I am a genuine young lady of substance and the Lord is my personal saviour. I am not ashamed of the gospel and it is my aspiration to spread his word among nations, so all may be known to him. With my God, all things are possible and nothing is impossible when He is by my side. I am proud and content to be His daughter. My God never fails and this is why I am not your average girl.

I am a model student and I believe that you can achieve whatever you put your mind to. I understand that it is crucial to live an exemplary life in this era. My attributes are beneficial in the sense that they promote an influential life towards my peers and everyone around me. My vision is to see people raise empowered young women who will serve the Lord selflessly and later in my life, to be a part of such an initiative.

I hope you consider my application and allow me this opportunity to be empowered, during my youth. I would appreciate to attend this initiative, as it will broaden my knowledge on how to carry myself around as a young girl and brace me for life’s difficulties.

Yours sincerely,

Yolanda Mini

My Lady, you are crowned for Impact

My Lady,
As we close off the Month of Women, across the country there’s has been a host of gatherings in the name of Women; all seeking to establish and cement the force that we are in our very unique way.
The month may have ended but the journey continues. We are continually searching the language tao articulate who we are; so that the world would see us, hear us, feel us, recognise and accept all that we are.
The women before us have created a blue print for us to use as a guide, yet we question and justify ourselves citing that times have changed and things are not the same.
The truth is the more things change, the more they stay the same…
The battles they fought, and the victories they celebrated are the same as today. The dynamics may be different but the principle is consistent.

We mirror them in more ways than we thought possible. 


They are us and we are them.

We have the power and influence to reclaim our space and leave a lasting legacy that will be celebrated for generations to come. 
My Lady,  it all starts with you and I. Let’s hold our heads high and walk hand in hand uplift each other for an even greater impact.

Day 8 – 9 Days In August

It is about being conscious of the necessity to  perpetuate  the progress of this pearl, woman. Women’s day never fails to provoke and simultaneously excite me. Proven by the generations of women before me,  it reminds me of the enormous strength I possess as a woman, the power of my influence, the worthiness of my ideas , the validity of my dreams, the necessity of my courage , the sturdiness of my purpose,  the rock-solidness of my fiber.

It opens my eyes to the beauty and strides of my sisters, my tribe and cautions me against the common syndrome of looking down upon others. Simply, this day to me shouts live, laugh, be, shine, confront, replenish, learn, fight right, attempt, dream, enrich, contribute. 

Above all else it reminds me  to live my life and make an ineffaceable  mark such that the generation after me will be impacted and inspired.

Tabisa Mrwebi

Tabisa Speaks.

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