We have been socialized to be grateful for what we have and requesting for more is seen to be covetous.
So what happens when you ARE grateful for what you have BUT it’s just not sufficient for where you’re going – for what you need to accomplish?
There’s a perfect example from Achsah the Daughter of Caleb. In the book of Joshua the story is narrated of how she was promised as a gift (her hand in marriage) to one who will conquer for her father Kiriath-Sepher. One Othniel accomplishes the task, and as promised Achsah is offered to him as a wife.
Now Achsah after persuading her husband, asked her father for springs of water, her father indeed gave her the land. Achsah had foresight, she was asking in wisdom so they could live of the land – she knew that they needed the springs of water to sustain their livelihood. It seems her husband was reluctant, hence she had to “Persuade” him. Sometimes your vision is as clear as daylight only to you, the urgency of it is weighing heavily just on you, many are times you have to take it up to yourself to do something about it.
The bible says Achsah got down from her donkey, she stepped down reverently and approached her father. Very important when you have this kind of request, you must know WHERE/TO WHOM to take it and HOW. I could almost say she may have not been as confident if not for the relationship (father-daughter) they have…
Know where to take your request.
The faithful father, asks as a Father would… What is your request? Is there anything too hard for the Lord? Aah! Your father is ready to hear your desire. He is willing and able to supply all your needs. Ask for it, God will honour your request. God’s way of giving is through our asking.
“Give me a blessing”. What a wonderful petition; what father would not love to give a blessing to his children. A father’s blessing is an inheritance to a loving child. “Give me a blessing”, this is the petition Jacob made as he struggled with an angel in Peniel; he said I will not let you go until you bless me. Achsah refuses to leave her father side without his blessing, even if she goes alone, even if it offends bystanders that view this some kinda way. The vision is heavy on her, she foresees a situation that will be challenging without this blessing.
“Give me a blessing: Thou hast given me a south land; give me also…” Acknowledge what you have with gratitude. The bible speaks of bringing your petition with thanksgiving in your heart. This is exactly what she does. She says Thank You for the southland, I am grateful for this gift.
“Thou hast given me a south land, but it is dry; give me also springs of water to make it of real value to me.” To show how grateful I am, I am already thinking forward on how we are going to make the most of it. She is asking distinctively, particularly, specifically; because she is a visionary. She clearly sees the value that the land (gift) will bring forth, she has a plan and is purposed for this.
Caleb gave her the upper springs and the nether springs. Observe, her father gave her what she asked. She asked for springs, and he gave her springs. “If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent. God gives us what we ask for when it is wise to do so. He gave her in good pleasure. She asked for springs of water, and he gave her the upper springs and the nether springs. The Lord “is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask, or think.”
The vision is for an appointed time My Lady, make sure that you do not leave the father’s presence without gathering all you need to see it come to fruition. Achsah has displayed how and to whom you make your petition. You will come back with your cup overflowing as our father in heaven gives in good measure, pressed down, shaken together.
 Joshua 15: 15-19
 Philippians 4: 6
 Matthew 7:9
 Ephesians 3:20
There are many voices that feed us and influence the choices we make as we go through life. These voices either make us or break us. It is therefore important to hear these voices and answer the questions – whose voice is it? How is it influencing my choices?
The Oxford Dictionary defines authenticity as being of the original or genuineness. So when we say something is authentic we mean it resembles its original form. The world has been propagating the concept of being real as though it means being caught up in our experiences and allowing them to define what we choose to be yet it goes much deeper than that. Being real means that we go beneath the surface of what is happening and going to the core – looking beyond circumstances – choosing life at all times.
13 For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[b]
Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them. (Psalm 139: 13-16)
Yes, we do not pretend not to feel or be affected by situations, but while we accept the status quo, we also acknowledge the original intention – the genuine purpose – we acknowledge that there is a God who knows where we should go. In this way we move beyond justifying our habits and emotions as genetic or based on previous experience and take the responsibility of now to restore the original intent and genuine purpose for giving us life.
As much as some experiences have shaped us positively, there are cases where they entrenched in us emotions and habits that blind us to or sabotage our destinies. They remind us of our weaknesses and faults – they taunt us about how we look and make us judge ourselves through the eyes of others instead of the eyes of God. That is why the Bible warns us to take care of our hearts – yes, from the heart flows the issues of life (Proverbs 4: 23).
We were not created to be black sheep, nor were we created to be unproductive. We were created in the image of God and His likeness – with capacity to rule and dominate, to be fruitful and increase – anything that takes this away from us is hindering us from our authentic self. Your sphere of rule may not be the same as other people, but you have sufficient capacity to stand; it may look like you do not fit the criteria like David, but you are destined to lead the Kingdom. Do not allow what is temporary to define who you are – habits can be changed – emotions can be let go – experiences do pass – but never allow them to steal your authentic self.
You are the original – not defined by circumstances (Acts 17: 28)
You are the genuine you – made perfectly by God for His Glory (Col 1:16; John1:3)
You are the only authentic you – not focusing on what’s behind but pressing towards the mark (Phil 3:12-14)
Anything that does not take you there is not you – and does not deserve your label – let this truth set you free.
My Lady, your dreams are valid – dream on.
I am not your average girl because..
I am not defined by the societal standards set in order to validate my worth. I find my validation in Jeremiah 1: 5
“I chose you before I gave you life, and before you were born I selected you to be a prophet to the nations”
I’m not your average girl because to me the mirror where i find the reflection of the women I ought to become is found in the character of the woman with the issue of blood. Her ability to overlook her situation and to reach for the helm of Jesus’ garment reveals the true meaning of faith in action. I’m not your average girl because well .. the its not the length of my stilletos that keeps me walking tall upright ,but the time I spend in on my knees praying for humility .
I’ll never be your average girl because well after all , I am iKumkanikazi -the embodiment of royalty
I believe that I am the best candidate to win the ticket for TGW because I am no average girl.
I am a genuine young lady of substance and the Lord is my personal saviour. I am not ashamed of the gospel and it is my aspiration to spread his word among nations, so all may be known to him. With my God, all things are possible and nothing is impossible when He is by my side. I am proud and content to be His daughter. My God never fails and this is why I am not your average girl.
I am a model student and I believe that you can achieve whatever you put your mind to. I understand that it is crucial to live an exemplary life in this era. My attributes are beneficial in the sense that they promote an influential life towards my peers and everyone around me. My vision is to see people raise empowered young women who will serve the Lord selflessly and later in my life, to be a part of such an initiative.
I hope you consider my application and allow me this opportunity to be empowered, during my youth. I would appreciate to attend this initiative, as it will broaden my knowledge on how to carry myself around as a young girl and brace me for life’s difficulties.